Hubby’s colleague

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I would say my marriage has a lot of ups and downs.
There Have been small episodes of violence in the past (hit me in the back, water thrown at me) etc I love my husband but I feel very lonely a lot of the time.
Last night my husband invited a colleague over to ours for dinner. I’ve met him before and enjoyed his company. I feel totally at ease with him. Anyway, I know it’s ridiculous , but I feel really attracted to him and I think he feels the same way, though I might just be imagining it! I even had butterflies thinking about him today!

Regardless of the colleague, why are you still with your abusive husband? You do acknowledge that his behaviour is abusive?

I don't know why you're talking about a crush in the same breath as your husband's violence?

Are you looking to justify a possible affair?

Sounds like you're projecting onto someone as an escape? Maybe he does like you, but to do anything given your situation would be reckless.

You need to get clean and clear away from your abusive partner first.

Sounds like you're projecting onto someone as an escape?

This.

Check up on your husband under Clare's law.

Don't go looking for imaginary white knights. You have to be your own hero in life.

Leave your abuser and then you can fall in love with whomever you please.

But stay single for a while first and learn how to spot red flags, otherwise you'll end up stuck with another dickhead.

How’s that going to help? She knows he has a history of domestic violence.