How do I take it to the next level with him

[Meme29]

Hi

i have a friend with benefits but since the day and hour I met him I’ve been in love with him, there’s something about the connection that I haven’t had with anyone else. We lost touch for a while last year but recently got in touch with each other and last night was the first night he came and stayed over as usually we play around and he leaves again.

like I said I’ve never felt a connection with anyone else but him and I can’t explain it. I really want to try and get out of the friends with benefits and move it on another level but don’t want to scare him off. Would anyone have any tips on how I can progress things with him and do it in a non pressuring way? I really could see myself settling down with him.

How did you lose touch?

It’s a bad idea to be friends with benefits with someone you’re in love with. Is it him who said he only wants FWB? Fuck “not scaring him off”, that’s a silly sexist idea that tells women to quash their own feelings and desires. Just be honest and tell him how you feel. Either he feels the same or he doesn’t, why create misery for yourself trying to “not scare him off” when you could get an answer now?

We both played the stupid game of we will see who will text first

And how did you get back in touch? Who contacted who?

We have kept running into each other at different places. He came over to me as soon as he seen me

I'd have an honest conversation with him... tell him how you feel, otherwise you'll fall back into the same cycle as last time.

Bluntly...you can't.

If he wanted to be more than fwb you would know. Walk away from this situation now before you end up with a broken heart.

Text him and say you would like to keep seeing him but you would like it to be exclusive as you are developing feelings for him.

It's the only way to know. If he says he doesn't want that, then at least you know and can move on.

Nothing ventured. We always regret what we don't do more than what we do.

Its a very bad idea to be 'fwb' with someone you have genuine feelings for. It just causes pain. Noone who loves you back will be scared off. People in love don't typically play 'who will text first' games either. Honour your own feelings and tell him how it is for you and accept he either feels the same or doesn't. The alternatives to this are heartbreak, lying to yourself, game playing or other time wasting stuff x