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Is it worth court

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Pleaseaddcaffine · 14/01/2023 08:12

ExDp pays 75 pcm for ds. Has him sparodically although usually every Friday evening now which has been happening for 6mths. Before that it was Wednesday and then that chnaged.
Hes talking about returning to an old field of work heavy on drugs and drinking etc and means he'd drop most weekends as works away.
I work full time and need routine for my work which pays for evrything in ds life. I'd rather get paid childcare if I had to as its reliable. I can afford it. I cant cope with the chopping and changing all the time.
Would a court order here help or would it be a pointless waste of money?

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Justmeandme19 · 14/01/2023 08:50

A court order carn't make him have him on certain days. So if he chooses not to have him per the court order there's very little if anything that can be done.
I would be more conserns about the father having him while on drugs and drinking!

SpinningFloppa · 14/01/2023 08:52

A court order is only so YOU make the child available it doesn’t mean he has to stick to it, it’s about you making the child available for example if you was being difficult and not allowing contact, so no it wouldn’t make any sense for you to take him to court.

Kenny69 · 14/01/2023 09:05

No, I don’t think, so a court order would normally be against you to make sure the child is available for certain days

Pleaseaddcaffine · 14/01/2023 12:03

I agree but my friend gets really agressive about me not doing it and getting formalised contact as ex keeps messing about on days etc. So I thought I may have been being a pushover.
Yes the drugs n alchol are the issue which is why apart form contact, I'm livid about job change but I have no say on his life now.

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