Told I'll only be happy when kids are 18yo

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My partner (well he broke up with me before new year) said this to me this afternoon. He works away pops into our lives when his roster can, I work full time, have no family near (I'm from other side of world) and practically have no life except, work and running around after kids, 10, 4 & 2 (the younger two are his). It was so nasty he said I'll never be be happy. Im so tried all the time, no time for myself and it was such a horrible thing to say. I've had to sacrifice my life. He's only really known me pregnant or tired with toddlers. I had hair app this afternoon as he is back now first time since new year and I sat in chair crying. I'm just so sad about everything. He said he can take the kids to his country. Yes I'm unhappy with failure of this relationship no matter how bad it is/was but that was mean

So your ex-partner who gives you fuck all help and support, and works away leaving you solely responsible for 3 kids while you work full time, then whinges that you're not a bundle of joyful energy!! Wanker!! He know that would hurt, that's why he did it. He's father to 2 young children, only sees then when it's totally convenient for him because he choose to work away. Wanker!

1. Make sure you claim cm ASAP. They don't back date.

1. Are you entitled to any benefits now you're single mum? Check that out online ASAP.

1. Secure the joint dc passports (and birthcerts if he's named on them). If they don't have passports get them ASAP so he can't.

1. Assume he is never going to be a good enough father enough to care for the dc and give you a break and plan accordingly. Any local mum's you could swap babysitting with even one a month or something? Local teens who need a bit of £? May even be an older woman who doesn't have grandkids who would like to be involved! Local Facebook page would he a place to start. Find that village to raise your dc.

1. Go to gp. Even if you think there's nothing physically or mentally wrong, get checked out and they can signpost you to support. Consider a week's stress sick leave to gather your thoughts!

He's a wanker! You're amazing and need to remember that!

Sorry for typos. Angry fingers! X

Didn’t want to read and run.

💐 to you OP

He sounds like an absolute charmer 🙄 so I’d say you’re better off without someone who knocks you down and deliberately says hurtful thing.

Agree with pp to claim maintenance asap - this should come straight from his paycheck. If he won’t help in person, at least he can help financially.

Just to be clear, he left you but still expects you to look after his DS 10 who isn’t yours?