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[Vickimf]

Hi

looking for distraction tips had a really good date over the weekend but I now think maybe the other person may have changed their mind. So I sent a message this morning just saying “Morning, hope you’re okay. Just wanted to message to say I really enjoyed seeing you the other night.
But I get it if you weren’t feeling it so don’t worry xx” I know that there is nothing to reply to but I can’t help but hope.

It's a bit late now but, in future, I wouldn't put the bit about anticipating them not feeling it.

Just say you hope to hear from them soon or it would be great to see them again.

Nothing you can do other than just sit it out now unfortunately. Good luck.

Just achieve it and get on with your day. Was it someone you met online? match with others, see it as numbers game until you find someone more enthusiastic.

I think the first part of the message seems fine but no need to write if they aren't feeling it. Have some self confidence, and it doesn't matter if he doesn't reply as there are plenty more dates you can find.

From personal experience, I've found men that are interested, keep up the messaging straight away anyone that's gone silent isn't interested.

Yes I am regretting sending it now but not much I can do it says delivered.

I'm a man, and this is spot on - but also applies to all of the women I've dated.
If they're interested, they'll find time to text back - if they're in work every few hours (I used to sneak out to my locker to text my now-wife!) and if they're out of work then usually a fairly flowing conversation.

In my opinion a lot of 'dead space' with no comms is a sure sign they're not interested.

Were there no messages after the date from either of you?

Don't sweat it OP! No reason to regret it, you have done nothing wrong or embarrassing and there's absolutely no harm in being proactive and sending a message. But like other posters have said, I think you may have had some contact by now had they been interested, so be prepared for a bit of a lukewarm response if one at all. Chin up. Onwards and upwards x

It's so stressful, isn't it? The thing is that the right guy won't keep you waiting, will reply promptly, will more than likely message first and will arrange to meet again soon. If this guy doesn't do any of those things, then you're well rid.

Just to clarify but I’m not sure it makes a difference we are both women. Thanks for the replies so far I have prepared myself that I will not get a reply because it’s been a few hours.

Fingers crossed for you.

I have had the same experience weekend gone. Fantastic date, made arrangements for another then tumble weed. I knew that was it but i don't get why they have to not say 'hey i'm not feeling it'.

She's at work!

Stop investing so much importance in one date, however much you liked her.
A most attractive trait is someone who has their own interests - focus on your own game rather than waiting for her play.

Sorry to hear you have had that happen JoJo

I got it out of him in the end yesterday. Supposed to meet today, but near silence, I said you aren't up for the date are you? He said no he wasn't ready. At which point was he gonna say??

Anyway good luck to you :)

Not sure why I made an assumption, sorry. Hope she replies.

There is no need to apologise at all thanks I think that’s pretty unlikely now