Graduation today. Ex narc sent flowers

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How do I respond?
I broke up with him as he was giving me the DARVO treatment for the umpteenth time and I was drained if it all.
He then contacted an ex to meet up for innocent reasons he said.
I can contact him on an old work email address to thank him if absolutely essential. He is blocked and deleted everywhere else.
Do I acknowledge or ignore.
I feel rude and bad mannered ignoring him.

Cmon now, OP, you've diagnosed him as a narc. you've talked about DARVO. He knows he's blocked , so you will now gobble the crumbs and thank him?
That's being a willing participant in the abuse!

Just ignore!! Don’t give him the satisfaction of responding.

Bad manners vs abusive narc hoovering? It's not a nice thoughtful gesture from him, it's an attempt to manipulate you into contact. Ignore!

In fact bin, rip off petals to male a celebrations confetti or give to a total stranger.

Just ignore

Don't respond, he's looking to re-open lines of communication and trying to worm his way back in.

Do not respond. Radio silence from you must be maintained.

Responding opens a door of communication that should otherwise remain closed.

Take them to the local cemetery

Ignore him. These people love to get themselves camping in your head at times where you are involved in something special that doesn't involve them.

Dont be a fool! Hes someone who didnt contribute meaningfully or positively to your life. You sound like you are still a little bit hooked on him, or the thrill of the up and down toxicity of the relationship. You got rid, so dont sabotage yourself now. He doesnt love you. He hasnt changed. Who gives a shit about being rude or impolite. He can stuff his flowers up his arse. Pay it forward by giving the flowers to a random person on the street who looks like they need a random act of kindness, forget he sent them and carry on with your life...

Ignore & give the flowers away

I was going to say chuck the flowers but this is a much better suggestion

Just ignore, it's not worth the risk of being drawn back in because you communicated with him.

How does he know what's happening in your life? Do you need to lock down your social media a bit better, or do you need to remind your friends and family to not share information about you with him?

Pop them in the bin and ignore, surely?

Ignore.

flowers to be put into garden waste

Why would you feel rude that someone you've recognised as an abusive narc who presumably knows they're blocked from contacting you STILL pushes past those boundaries to contact you

I echo the pp. how does he know your movements? Something isn't locked down and you need to make sure everything is. Because look... he's trying to wheedle his way back in.

He's blocked for a reason. He's continuing to be an abusive cunt. Don't fool yourself into thinking it's anything else.

I have found out how to block him on email . Thanks Google!
I've given the flowers to my lecturer!
All blocked and no contact.