Has anyone here ever settled for a relationship?

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I'm 40 and a lesbian so my dating pool is a lot smaller.
I'm married and got married after 8 months.
I'm wondering if I would of been inclined to do this if I wasn't starting to worry about being old and alone.
Don't get me wrong me and my wife have lots of fun
Has anyone else "settled" ?

How do you "fall in love" with someone else unless you start to spend more time with them while you're still in your "settled" relationship, and effectively cheat? Just curious!

Yes, then I got divorced 10 years later. I never fancied him. But so far, he has been my best choice and we still get on really well.

Yes I did. I was nearing 40 and thought he would be a great father but in all honesty I didn't love him as I should have.
But....... we've been married 25 years now and he is my soulmate. We laugh together, finish each other's sentences and have so many plans for our future together.
I can't ever imagine wanting anyone else and I know he feels the same.
We worked so hard to get where we are and there have been tough times but it's all been worth it for us.

@JimBob61 awwww! Love clearly blossomed! But I’m guessing you both put the effort in!

are you happy op? That’s the main thing

I don’t think there’s anyone perfect for any of us really. I didn’t have the confidence to make good decisions when I was younger and I as terrified of not getting an education or career due to my background. So in my 20s I met a lot of men and then in my 30s I married a friend who is right for me but maybe we didn’t settle for each other ??

morally and values are similar though he is very different than me in lots of ways and very strict parentage that I have had to work on.

I don’t feel blown away or on cloud 9 but we are right for each other long term. there is a lot of respect

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