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How to talk to the kids

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Freeflight · 09/01/2023 22:30

Anyone got any tips for talking to the kids about dh moving into a separate room permanently?

We are on a trial separation but finances don't allow us to physically split and we still get on well (just not a marriage anymore).
Dh has been in the spare room for a few months in a blow up, but I've said I'd like the move to be more permanent so we've got a bed and mattress on the way.
We initially said daddy snores so we sleep separately, and I don't know if we continue this until we are ready to tell them more.
I'd rather not tell them too much until we have a plan as dh still in the early stages of even accepting what is happening as it's me instigating it.
I think as we get further along in the journey we will tell the kids more but I don't want to a) overwhelm them or b) have the kids knowing too much before dh has come to terms with it as I think any discussions with them would be hard for him

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tiggergoesbounce · 09/01/2023 22:31

How old are the kids ?

Freeflight · 09/01/2023 22:37

@tiggergoesbounce Kids are 9 and 3 (obvs 3 year old will believe anything as he won't be listening so something simple for him)

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