I just don't get him anymore..

[W3STY17]

I know with the way things are at the moment, life is a bit of a struggle but my Husband is just making things 10x worse at the moment.
He is moody all the time.
Doesn't want to be around our children.
Hides away in our room.
We don't have quality family time.
It's different when we're out. He acts differently around people.
It sounds bad but it makes me feel like I've given him something he doesn't want (ie our beautiful, healthy children).
Coming from a separated family there is nothing I wanted more than a nice family unit.
How can I get things to change?
I just want to stop feeling like myself & our children are treading on eggshells when around him!!

I think he is depressed...
I just don't know how to help him cause he just always seems to jump on the defence when I go to him about anything & he always assumes that I'm making him out to be a bad father, while those words have never come out of my mouth.

But he is a bad father. There might be reasons and those reasons might be good ones (depression) or bad ones (can't be arsed with his kids).

But in no way is he showing up as a good father or husband right now.

I wouldn't say he is being a bad father, he clearly has things going on in his mind that he is struggling with.

He works hard & long hours to make sure we have a roof over our heads, puts food in the fridge & makes sure all the bills are paid so in that respect I don't see him as bad father.

Yes I agree the way he is behaving isn't on & we need to get to the bottom of it.
He is also my career due to my medical conditions so thinking about it i think he has so much pressure on his shoulders which no doubt is getting him down.

No matter how he is, he always wants the best for me & the girls.

Ok I know I sound like an over protective wife but I genuinely think it must be that he is depressed but hopefully having a chat will help him open up about what's bothering him.

@W3STY17 How’s it going? Hope things are better?

I have changed my name on here just in case there is any confusion!
We had a long chat about things & the aair has now been cleared.
He was very honest with me with what was concerning him & i completely sympathise with him.
Things have been much better since.
No affair just struggling with his mental health.
Thank you @Isheabastard for asking!

I’m really pleased to hear that. Thanks for coming back.