Is this a crime or financial abuse?

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Just found out my estranged husband has, over many years, lied about how much bill money he needs monthly and has added on between £20 and £80 each month, which I've paid (stupidly; trustingly). Would this be worth reporting?

I don’t think the police would be interested to be honest.

No, op, it won’t,

I don't think it's a crime or abusive, it's shitty and underhand if it was deliberate. We're you transferring money to him when he was estranged or when you were still in a relationship?

This. Police won’t be interested whatsoever.

No, it’s not a crime.

have you been living together while you’ve been contributing this money, or is it since you’ve separated?

It's been over a period of 11+ years, 6 of which we have been married (still are).

The best way to resolve this is to divorce him ! Why are you still paying his bills?

Did he use it to build up a fund so he could leave?

did he spend it on beer and gambling?

i think I’d think differently depending on the answer.

You're married. It belongs to both of you.

Why is he asking you for money to pay his bills?

Sorry for the drip-feed. He's used it to go travelling for 6 months. Long story, he's refused to work for over 11 years and has (undiagnosed, as he refuses help) mental health issues and alcoholism. I'm in the process of starting divorce proceedings.

Just get divorced. Until then, he's entitled, as the money belongs to you both.

Don't worry about the past; he's taken advantage of the situation, and that's a lesson for you. Move on, now.

What a complete arsehole. However, married all the money is in common.

Divorce him and consider it cheap to be rid.

Make sure your divorce lawyer knows. Do whatever he/she advises.