Why is she telling me about other women?

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I'm dating a woman.
Apparently she's got a wandering eye.
The last month she's been telling me about other women she's chatting with and now I think she's trying to make me jealous.

I text her yesterday morning and no response but within 5 minutes she posted a picture of a lady on her sofa with just a blanket over her (she's not her friend )
She knew I would see it and be jealous.

I just feel so down about it all
Before we dated I felt attractive and now I feel like I must not be -if I'm not enough to stop her doing this.

She's gaslighting you OP. Get away from her for the sake of your mental health.

There are plenty of other women out there who will be much kinder and lovelier than her.

She sounds controlling and isn't treating you well.

Why not go on a date with the woman who asked you? You've said your current partner isn't like you hoped, but this can work both ways and you might be pleasantly surprised once you get to know your date better.

Don’t let people play with your emotions, it’s fucked up.

As to why she does it - although you should focus much less on this & far more on how it makes you feel & ending it asap - she's boundary-testing you. Seeing how much you will tolerate. How far she can push you:
The last month she's been telling me about other women she's chatting with and now I think she's trying to make me jealous.

Undermining your confidence so she keeps the upper hand.
Keeping your thoughts constantly focused on pleasing her so she stays with you.
Making you do the Pick-Me Dance against all these other women.
www.chumplady.com/2012/04/the-humiliating-dance-of-pick-me/

Stop dating this woman.

I actually said you are making me feel so worthless and my self confidence is on the bottom.
She replied by saying she didn't know what I meant and I don't understand

This!

Really wouldn't have done that. She wants you to be jealous. Now she's pending she doesn't get it, so you hang around- and she can keep doing it!

Stop offering yourself up to her like a mouse to be toyed with. She likes that you feel worthless and of course she understands. It's of her own design and makes her feel powerful.
She's not nice. Face it.

If you are walking in the jungle & encounter a huge posionous snake, do you tell the snake it mustn't bite you because that would hurt?

Or do you realise the snake doesn't give a shit about your pain, & get the fuck away from it?

How long have you been seeing her?

Are you actually in a relationship with her, or just dating? I know you’ve said “dating” in your OP but I guess I’m wondering if you’re exclusive.

There’s nothing in what you’ve written that suggests she’s doing this to make you jealous. That would imply she cares enough to want you to be jealous, for whatever reason. I think she’s just not interested in you enough and is looking elsewhere at the same time as keeping you hanging on.

You’ve got to forget this one!

She doesn't understand... Hmmm riiiight. I bet that have her a nice kick to have you basically asking her not to maul your emotions, which she clearly is doing intentionally... "who me!?" 🤯. No one sends pictures of other love interests unless they want to provoke a reaction. Then she gas lights you into pretending not to know what you're on about.
You're being played like a fiddle.
She's not nice. She doesn't have your best interests at heart so inevitably all she can do is hurt you (in between giving you just enough fun to keep you on the hook).
Get single and do some work on reflecting what this has done to you and healing yourself and making sure you are prepared for a healthy happy relationship when you next get into one.
Don't go out with the other person if you don't feel for them, it wouldn't be fair on them and you need to get some self understanding going before you invest in anything else.

What do you need from us to break away from this woman?

Not one person has said a nice thing about her. She's destructive and cruel and deliberately hurting you.

I hope you can see that. And stop pondering the whys, the what ifs and poring over everything she's said to you for some sort of sign of what's going on.

She's not nice. She's treating you like shit.

Block. Move on. And be happy.

A lot of what you've described is classic manipulative, controlling, narcissistic behaviour.

This doesn't come from nowhere - it develops through long practice. And a lot of that happens in secret while they maintain a mask - until it accidently slips, or they feel sufficiently in control of you to chuck it away and reveal their true face.

You're lucky it's happened so soon; depending on your ages this could go on for decades.

Let the fantasy of her go - that's all it ever was.

Why did you start dating a woman who is known for having a wandering eye in the first place? Do you hate yourself that much? This woman is going out of her way to be cruel to you and you’re questioning if it’s something you’ve done. You really need to bin her off and go and work on your self esteem.