Dating in 50s

[Livelifelaughter]

Hello, I am in my mid fifties as is my boyfriend of 6 months. The first few months were brilliant but now I feel the intensity has diminished. But I adore him. He has been separated 2.5 years and had quite a dysfunctional marriage by his account - living as strangers until the children left university.
I divorced 10 years ago, have dated lots but he is my first relationship lasting this long. I feel that he doesn't have the same idea about a relationship is, for example he never in a 20 plus year marriage went on holiday with just his wife, always with groups of friends. He has lots of great qualities but he rarely arranges things because he never has done. Our first weekend away was to visit a friend of his and the next to see friends of mine, and I arranged another trip. He is very kind, affectionate and we really talk, but we both skirt around the future - I don't want to get married nor does he. Seriously, I am not suggesting we make plans to live together but a holiday would be nice. I am rambling but I feel we really get on, click and the sex is fab, but he just feels emotionally guarded. Any advice?

Are you saying that you wish he'd ask you on holiday?

Yes, sorry for the rambling post and thank you for the reply. I basically would like him to arrange a holiday or at least suggest one rather than responding to invites of mine or his friends or me booking a nice hotel. It makes me feel uncertain and it's January so I like to plan things...

Does he arrange other things or is he always unenthusiastic or passive?

A few things, such as a lunch and theatre trip. We do block out time in our diaries a few weeks ahead so we always have a night or two in the week and a day and night at the weekend and that's very much his instigation. I tend to book tickets and make suggestions. He is much happier doing things on the hoof.

Sounds like it might just be different expectations, then? You're used to different things. Did your ex(es) use to organise things, rather than you?
Guess you can either just accept that this is what he's like, or point out that he could be more proactive - maybe it's just not occurred to him and he might like the idea once you've suggested it.

Thank you again....in the past my ex's would arrange things but so would I. I have spoken to him, in fact he has suggested weekends away numerous times but just doesn't deliver and then I almost feel as though I can't tell if he isn't bothered in the relationship or it just rubbish organisation skills he acquired from being in previous relationships...

If he's not done it in the past then he really might just not think of it. But if someone suggested a weekend away and never came up with the goods - more than once - I'd be asking "When are you arranging that weekend then?"