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Mixed signals

8 replies

Whatacrocof · 06/01/2023 17:49

Hi all. My ex and I broke up in August, his decision. Originally wanted to stay “friends” we have known each other many years. There was no big argument etc.

Ive had the odd text since then but not much apart from when I reply he ignores them.

I got a “Merry Christmas x” on Christmas Day I replied the same. He called on Monday and had a brief chat. We possibly meeting for a catch up tomorrow . I text today to see if he still wanted to meet and he said “no, sorry I’m busy” or something like that “maybe next week I’ll see nearer the time”.

what the actual f@@k is going on here??? When we spoke he just seems offish and angry with me. I’m not being a doormat for that man again!

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Greensleevevssnotnose · 06/01/2023 17:50

Block him then

minticecreamisjustok · 06/01/2023 18:02

He's a coward, and a bit mean to lead you on with friendship, it's just a polite but feeling guilty way to end a relationship. Just delete and ignore, you don't need this confusion.

qqq82 · 06/01/2023 18:11

Oh bugger that
He's clearly just keeping you on the back burner
You're worth more than that
Cut him off ffs

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2023 18:12

Do you really want to stay friends with someone who wastes your time and takes huffs.

I'd also wonder if he sounded standoffish when you spoke because he's with the new womam and doesn't want her to know he's keeping in touch with you.

Or maybe he wants something back that he gave you or that you have of his.

Whatacrocof · 06/01/2023 18:48

@Pinkbonbon as far as I’m aware he’s still single. He didn’t really buy me anything in the 6 years and I don’t have anything of his 😊

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YoSofi · 06/01/2023 19:06

The game ends when you stop playing….

Sandra1984 · 06/01/2023 19:12

He’s throwing you a bed crumb every now and them to see if you’re still “game” but has no actual interest in meeting. It’s a bit of an ego thing for him. You and him have not remained “friends” because this is not what real friends do. Friends don’t bed crumb and wait for you to respond so they get an ego boost and not respond. This guy is a toxic element in your life. Get rid.

Whatacrocof · 06/01/2023 19:14

@Sandra1984 very true. It’s funny my depression and anxiety has improved (along with the help of meds) but I’m no longer wondering where the hell I’m up-to.

Thanks all

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