Would this put you off?

[Yooser34]

Been seeing a guy I met through OLD, he’s 27. I’m 25.

just found out he shares a flat with his sister ie they own it together. Is this weird? Never dated a guy who didn’t have his own place before although mostly renters.

Other than that he seems great so not sure if I’m being fussy. Would it put you off?

So he's financially more stable than the renters you've dated before and has a good relationship with his family and this is putting you off?

No. Why would it?
It's a smart way to get on the property ladder and shows he has a good relationship with family.

It's quite preferable to be a home owner ar 27 rather than rent, don't you think?

What exactly is it that you find outputting about the setup?

What is your housing situation, BTW?

What's the issue? I once knew someone who bought a house with his best friend. I can't see the issue. I'd love someone to share my mortgage.

Also well done to him at 27 owning his own place.

Absolutely not weird. Why would it be? It’s difficult to own property these days. If siblings decide to own together when they are young to save wasting money on rent that’s very financially savvy to me. Makes good sense. Presumably once one of them is ready to buy a property with a partner they will change this, and maybe buy each other out or sell. I find it weird that someone would find it weird. Weird in what way OP? Hopefully not suggesting something odd is going on?

Why on earth would it put me off? Sounds sensible

Well I hope you own a property OP? I assume you wouldn't want him to be put off if you are renting!
Seriously, give your head a wobble 🙄

Not at all. I know other people who have done this as a way to get onto the property ladder with someone they can trust if they can’t afford to get a place on their own.

As well as being a financially smart thing to do, it sounds like his family is close too which is also a green flag in my eyes

No I'd be fine with this!

I know loads of people who have done this with a sibling and sold up later on with lots of equity for a single deposit.

I'd argue you don't much like him if this is bothering you!

Ok, just me being silly then. Thanks, guys.

LIke @Zanatdy "I find it weird that someone would find it weird."

not unless this is a drip feed and its actually a 1 bed flat and they share a bed.

🤣🤣

Can you articulate why?

It’s a little off putting if you want to go back to his place for sex. That’s not the best time to meet your boyfriend’s family.

Having breakfast the morning after the night before could be awkward if his sister’s there.
It is a different dynamic than a flat mate.

Theres always the potential that a new man may turn out to be weird so What ifs aren’t based on truth necessarily.

i mean what if they have an odd relationship- she’s much older than him and behaves like his overprotective mother?

Equally, the sister could be cool and busy with her own life with a bf of her own.

It’s a bit premature to all be applauding this guy and congratulating him on being financially savvy.

He could have had a massive leg up from wealthy parents, he and his sister could have inherited their flat.
That doesn’t make him better or smarter than 20 somethings who have to rent.

Could have.

But at least he's looking to the future and planning long term

And doesn't matter how he got there. He IS financially more secure as a homeowner.

I find it frankly weird the op is worried about this.

Far from bothering me, I'd see it as a good sign that he's grown up in a stable family and has good relationships within that family.

I think it's quite nice actually and could see my two doing the same.

Please pass the popcorn...

I don't find it weird that the OP is a bit cautious- he may be absolutely fine but he could also be overly enmeshed with family and his sister always being around could be a pain. These things are absolutely not guaranteed though. They could be perfectly independent young people who have had the opportunity to own property and are grabbing it, be that through inheritance or joint purchase. Don't write him off but maybe be observant for any codependency or interference in the early days.

Op hasn’t really given much to go on but being so young she could just be after a casual fling or bit of fun.

In which case, a guy not having a place of his own where you can have noisy sex and wander about in your pants is a bit off putting.

I wasn’t looking at boyfriends as life partners and considering their financial assets at that age.

Yes an adult who part owns a property has more financial security than a tenant. I doubt that’s what op is put off by.