I’m wondering if anyone can offer some advice.
Background info, split from husband last year after he cheated on me. He’s since shown himself to be a total narcissist and on and off harassed me all of last year. Eventually he ramped up the emotional abuse late last year and I ended up calling the police on him. He’s currently on bail terms stating that he can’t contact me or be anywhere near me. The bail terms run out soon and instead of pressing charges through the police I intended to apply for a non molestation order. The police constable dealing with me encouraged me to do this and put me in touch with a domestic abuse charity.
Someone at the charity told me (a couple of months ago) that I couldn’t apply for a non mol order whilst he was under bail terms so she would get someone to contact me closer to the time. I’ve spoken to a IDVA from the same charity today who has told me that because there have been no incidents during the bail terms that I can’t apply for a non mol order. Apparently there needs to have been an incident within the last 4 weeks. This seems like totally contradictory advice and now I don’t know what to do!
The bail terms will end very soon and according to the charity I can’t apply for a non mol order until he does something else. This just doesn’t seem right? I’d be basically opening myself up to emotional abuse before I could try and do something to prevent this. Does anyone have any experience of this sort of situation? Im going to speak to a solicitor as soon as I can but wondered if anyone know if what the IDVA has said today is true and I can’t actually apply now.