Would you give it another go or not?

[Rivernight]

I was dating a guy for 5 months, got on great, lots of chemistry and all the rest of it. Then came valentines day 2022 and not so much of a message from him. I felt a bit shit, more so because I felt as though I was putting more effort in than him beforehand anyway so I thought he might send flowers or at least a nice message but no nothing, radio silence.

I stopped seeing him after this and he must have known the reason why. Anyway we have been in contact sparsely since and he wants us reconnect and I would like to but I am not sure if would be wise or if I trust him with my feeling I suppose. It did hurt me I've got to be honest but maybe I'm making it into a bigger deal than it was/is. Would this bother you or would you give it another chance. It was also a little embarrassing seeing everyone's flowers etc and then being asked what I got 🙃.

And what about if you said you didn't want to have sex with him again for a few months, and just spend time together?

@Watchkeys why would I say that 😂

How did he respond after valentines day? Did he try to get in touch, show interest in why you ended things? You said radio silence, did you just stop speaking to one another? You said you've been in touch with each other since, I think it's really odd this hasn't been brought up. That leaves me leaning towards thinking he's after just sex, which is fine if that's what you want, but you mentioned your emotions, which indicates possible incompatibility, like others have said. You sound like your definitely going ahead. Hope you look after yourself and your interests well.

@dudsville we did a bit of back and forth the day after Valentins Day. I wasn't very forthcoming but he knew I was upset. He then said 'you have never told me what you want'. I kinda left it there. Neither of us have brought up what we want. However, we have kept it touch.

So if you’ve never discussed it like grown ups…. You are expecting him to guess what upset you and change himself to fix it?

Guessing from your posts that you don’t really mind if he’s just aiming to use you for sex though? If so, I guess there’s nothing to loose.

@Coffeellama well this is the whole point of the thread. We need to discuss it and I'm going to give it a little bit of time. If nothing changes I will then move on.

Men like this are boomerangs arnt they.
If you fancy a shag go for it but he's not interested in you asa serious partner and he isn't good enough for you as one x

To work out if he just wants you for sex. It's not funny; it's your self respect.

You seem to think that trying over with a dud is a good idea, and laughing at boundaries.

Why don't you want to be with someone you think is amazing, who gets things right for you, and makes you feel good?