Unhappy marriage ? Advice needed :(

[1993baby]

I suppose it’s not just unhappy anymore, but verbally abusive..

tonight I’ve been told I’m worthless, nobody loves or likes me, my family all hate me..
he told me that nobody will ever like me if we split up as I’ve put on weight after pregnancy etc and told me that I’m ugly now..
started bringing up my ex boyfriends and past relationships blaming me for them
said I’m a terrible mum..

I just feel so so low and depressed..

has anyone any advice on leaving with a 3 year old?

Leave now!

It won’t get better as he will only bring you down further short of making you lose your mind..

Experience is the best teacher. I know👌

Save yourself now before it’s almost impossible for to you reverse the already terrible damage he has done to you.

You deserve better and your children deserve better..

Best of luck 👍

I guess you need practical advice. I would seek support from somewhere like Womens Aid I think. They will be able to provide assistance with money matters, housing issues etc. But do you have parents or siblings you can tell?

I'm so sorry your going through this . My husband is exactly the same with me too . He even used to lie and say my mother hated me and was always slagging me off to him which I stupidly believed . Never brought it up to her but I did distance myself self for a while . You know he's only saying this stuff to hurt you . That's what they do 😢.

I am hoping you meant ex husband although unbelievably you appear to be saying that you accept that 'it's what they do' and put up with it.. please don't . If not for you, then do not let your dc learn that this behaviour within relationships is acceptable.

Get kid into nursery and make sure you are working and able to support yourself financially
then leave

life is too short to stay with someone so hateful x

he doesn’t sound particularly pleasant

you can leave now and try to rebuild or carry on in his shitshow for the next 10 years

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

I hope you can make a plan and leave soon. You're in my thoughts. Be strong. 🌹

You might need this info, too.
www.womensaid.org.uk/cover-your-tracks-online/

I also suggest you reach out to a few trusted friends and family give all details of abuse and write it all out. Keep in a safe place or email to someone you trust.

My partner brings up my past about other guys when he's drunk and we having a baby together this year, weve been together for a while. Its mentally draining everything is fine when he's sober but when he's not can make me feel awful and no matter when I'm telling the truth I'm a liar. I'm not happy with the things I've done but I can't go back and change them. What's the best way to deal with it?

Please leave this guy. He will continue tearing you down and destroying your confidence and it will get worse the more you put up with it. His words are a reflection of himself and he wants to drag you down