Would this bother you? Boyfriend making plans when we already had plans

[Twaooo]

Would this bother you?
new boyfriend of 7 months, we see eachothers a few times a week when my children are with their dad.
a few times since we’ve been together my boyfriend has made plans with me (e.g saying “il call over tomorrow after work”or even more formal dates like “let’s go for dinner Saturday night when the kids are away”) and then maybe a day or so later will say he’s made other plans with no acknowledgment of our plans, even if they were just loosely made.
he’s away at the minute on a trip with work so I won’t have seen him for around 9 days with the way the new year fell etc . We made plans that on Thursday when he is back we will see each-other and I said I had planned us something nice to do, I have dinner booked for us in our fave place. Today he rang from his trip and mentioned Thursday night that his friend was calling round. I said I thought we were going out and he said I could be there too 🙄
any of the previous times when I’ve mentioned him doing these things he’s made out that he’s genuinely forgot. Or that the alternative plans can include me too.
am I being unreasonable to be annoyed at this? Feel like when he does this he doesn’t value my time/ effort

Stop trying to explain your position and get a reasonable answer from him. He's not bothered how you feel about it, that's really clear. Your a convenience at best, and as soon as you start asking for some accountability he will put you in the too hard basket.

Save your breath and energy, you won't get what you're looking for from this one.

Are you really asking if you should be "bothered" by someone forgetting a date with you after 7 months (7- hours, days, weeks, months). Get firm boundaries. If anyone forgets a date with you twice dump them.

Well that just underlines it, doesn’t it? He’s surprised you’re reacting like that - it’s you being strange, not him! Definitely tell him you’ve had enough. Surely you have had enough?

Who has a nine-day work trip over the Christmas /New Year season?

Sorry, I read your message wrong, the trip may have started after New Years.

Yes it would bother me. His response to your text would also bother me. He is not a good communicator and could not be bothered to check out if something was OK with you. He's either very controlling or very self-centred. Either way you are best out of this.

He should be gagging to spend time with you!!! Find someone who is

His response is rubbish OP, I'm sorry. That must hurt. Hes an idiot for sure, and you don't want to be dating one of those anyway.

Not even an apology is just pathetic.
I wouldn't even reply to that message. Leave it with him. If he comes back with a huge apology you can consider what to do, but if that was his initial response I'm not sure i'd be putting any effort into taking anything further with him to be honest.

I would dump him purely for "didn't think you would react like this".

Firstly because he is blaming your REACTION instead of his ACTION.
Secondly because he's lying.
How can he not have thought you'd react like this ... if he had forgotten that he'd flaked on you?

He's as good as told you 1) suck it up 2) I won't change.