Friend who never make the first move - WWYD?

[spartanrunnergirl]

Got a friend - we have some shared interests. She NEVER makes the plans, I am always the one who reaches out to suggest lunch, trips, events to go to etc. she is always very positive and accepts invitations, but does not then arrange things at all or invite me to stuff she is doing. It's all feeling a bit draining. I assume she likes me as she is enthusiastic about the plans I make but it's all one sided. Thinking I need to let it drift, WWYD?

It's entirely up to you whether the pros outweigh the cons. It sounds a bit forced and transactional to me, but then if it was going great it wouldn't be on here I suppose.

You doing all the running isn't ideal, but there are so many other variables I don't think anyone can advise you based solely on the info above.

Yes @Weekenders I suppose I just wondered also if anyone else had experienced this eg someone who seems to enjoy your company but at the same time is never proactive about it. You've made me think about the variables /pros cons etc. for sure.

Hi op yes had it too. But I got tired of it. I didnt text she didnt. Months passed. Im not sure I want to keep chasing now. If her kids babies I say fair enough but they not. I texted at xmas but it be up to me to do the driving around ..

Yes, I have a friend like this but it's just the way she is so I don't worry about it and just invite her. Probably helps that she has acknowledged it and knows she does it. The pros massively outweigh the cons for me.

I’m crap for making plans, especially when some of my friends seem to enjoy it and actively suggest things, which is then great as I do t have to.
Yes it’s a bit lazy, but none of the friends seem to mind 🤷🏽‍♀️

I tend to suggest stuff a lot and then organise (mainly with my male friends , female ones seem more equal with organising) it doesn't bother me, I spend my days organising stuff with work so I'm an expert at saying this time, this place. We always have a good time.

Are they a good friend in other ways? If so maybe you're just more of an organiser. Not everyone can be the same. It is only a problem if they take in all ways but for example if they would help you out in a crisis, are generous when listening, make you feel good then they have other positives.