I am starting to wonder if my friend likes pissing on my strawberries (metaphorically of course). We have been friends for a long time - when we met we saw each other pretty much everyday at work and lived very close to each other. In the last few years we have ended up living a couple of hours drive from each other. In that time we have both made new friends and, honestly, I think my friend doesn't like me having newer friends. She is embarrassingly snotty around them.
Any conversation we have where I might be expressing pleasure at something is shot down. For example, I want to get a new car and so I opened a conversation with her about it and sent her some photos. Everything I suggested she dismissed as not worth the money or I could get a better deal. Every single one.
I had decided to have a proper birthday party and my friends teenage son had agreed to do the music for me - this was agreed months ago. Now, two weeks out, she texts me that he can't do it anymore and she will play a playlist to a Bluetooth speaker instead. This is so not what I want - I have hired a venue, paid for food and I'd like proper music with a DJ for dancing. Too late to find someone else now I've cancelled the party and I'm hoping that the venue will let me have it on another date. But my friend has not even apologised for the fact that my party has been wrecked by this last minute change. I know it's her son who has pulled
Out on me, but I think he's been influenced and if it were the other way way round I'd be insisting that my child stuck to the commitment.
This next part is more for background, but continues to bother me. I have a serious illness. Last year I was in hospital for a while after a massive surgery. The surgery was done at a hospital 100s of miles away. My friend said she wanted to come and support me and then said she couldn't because of other commitments. So I said ok and another friend came with me. She then changed her mind about coming and went crazy because someone else was with me. I received a number of angry texts the day before the surgery. Once the surgery was done and I was in icu, I got more texts about how I had enough people running around after me and she was sure she wasn't needed. Actually I was largely on my own for a week, eventually being flown back to my home town in an air ambulance.
We have been friends for a long time and in the past she has been an amazing friend. It's just that the friendship seems to have turned into something else.