Reading (yet another) thread about a DH not pulling his weight, and one thing that came up a lot in the answers was about the danger of resentment building up and ultimately killing the relationship.
That made me think. We’ve had a few years when things haven’t been easy, partly due to external factors and particularly for DH. I tried to help but have taken on far too much as a result and the resentment about the unfair split now weighs heavily. Things are a bit easier now and he is doing —a bit— more of his share but I feel like the resentment is really clouding things. So, eg, he does the dishwasher and I think of all those times he didn’t do it and get mad about that all over the again. Or he doesn’t ask if I want a coffee and I take offense because of the times when he wasn’t very present, even though I may not even want a coffee and don’t always offer him one when I do make it. (Not sure these are the best examples…)
Was anyone in a similar situation and did you manage to fix it?