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Am I over reacting?

6 replies

Feellikeateen88 · 02/01/2023 19:02

I'm not making excuses for myself (or maybe I am) but my baby is 5 months old and I've just started taking the pill so I am aware that i can sometimes be a bit hormonal or over react and I am questioning myself over this. My partner and I have had a bit of an arguing spell over Xmas. Our baby doesn't sleep and it's caused us to be quite snappy with each other. Come to new years eve and he told me he wouldn't spend the evening with me because "we would argue". So I spent the night alone with my daughter. Then new years day he told me he's going out for "a few". I did get my back up slightly because I felt like we hadn't seen each other over new year. Anyways he went out. Messaged me saying he got in at 3am. I live in a small town and one of my friends saw him out and told me it was probably innocent but he was chatting to a girl and when he saw my friend look over he said be careful because someone's watching us. It's made my stomach drop. It could very well have been an innocent conversation with her but when I brought it up he told me doesn't have time for this drama and that I'm completely over reacting.

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Fladdermus · 02/01/2023 19:07

No you're not overreacting and now you know the real reason he ducked out of spending NYE with you.

allboysherebutme · 02/01/2023 19:09

Sorry to say he's used the bickering as an excuse to go out.
I really would not feel comfortable with how he is behaving after you have just had a baby and also how he behaves when he is out.
I would ask him to leave and be much happier alone with my baby, as I fear you will be spending a lot of time alone with your baby and I'd much rather do it as a single parent than have to sit at home worrying about what he's up to. X

Frazzledmummy123 · 02/01/2023 19:10

He has behaved like a selfish arse. If he did say "be careful, someone is watching us", then you are not overreacting at all. His response too doesn't exactly look good either.

Talk to your friend again and ask her if she is holding any info from you. Is there a chance she knows more but has chosen to only tell you a snippet to not hurt you any more?

YouTarzan · 02/01/2023 19:11

Not over reacting

Iknowthis1 · 02/01/2023 19:12

You're not over reacting.

barmycatmum · 02/01/2023 19:12

you are not overreacting. at all. He's got you thinking that, so you don't look too closely at what he's doing.

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