What to do?

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I feel incredibly shallow writing this, but I my head is all over the place! Met a man online 2 weeks ago. Due to family and children commitments, we could only see each other last night.
Made the classic mistake of getting too involved without meeting first with video & phone calls daily.
The problem is when we did meet, he looked exactly like his photos from the chest up, but was HUGE from the the chest down. I was shocked. Despite this, he is so lovely that I tried to block that out and we had a lovely evening that ended in sex 🙈 mainly because we both assumed it was a foregone conclusion. But because I'm petite, it didn't work very well at all.
AIBU to call it off? I feel evil. He thinks he's "in love" 🙈

@Xrays absolutely. Although next date planned is dinner out with babysitter so no possibility of sex.

You should have insisted on body pics.
You shouldn't get too invested too early on.
Sex between a fat man and a thin woman is supposed to be easier than 2 overweight bodies so not sure what you mean it couldn't work lol.

Did he realise that the sex was rubbish?

Wtf should have insisted on body pics? Nah. She could see on the first date if she fancied him or not.

The sex wasn't rubbish. The intimacy was good, the positioning wasn't what I'm used to or prefer.

Totally agree with @Justcallmebebes on this one....no offence but I think you're over analysing this, you've had sex once, you're having doubts...this isn't a long term relationship you're trying to get out of. Either continue or call it a day but don't feel guilty for doing what's best for you.

Tell him you don't feel you're compatible. It doesn't sound like you are.

This.

I am quite old but when we used to do phone dating (ha! Not even online dating! You used to listen to phone messages and arrange to meet), you never even got a photo. It was all very blind date. Meeting under a clock at the station etc and hoping they weren’t some weirdo. If they were you’d just make excuses early on and leave or just decide they weren’t for you. I think it’s rude to ask for full length pics. Sometimes someone can be super good looking in their photos but the chemistry just isn’t there and vice versa.

Yes, I overthink everything. Just told him very gently that I've had a change of heart.

Well done...much kinder to be honest rather than let him invest emotionally in to someone who's not feeling it. He'll get over it in time.

You’ve done the right thing. Like others have said he can’t be in love when he’s only met you once. He needs to be more honest with his profile as not everyone fancies overweight men and there’s no point stringing people along as he’s only going to get more hurt.

He needs to be more honest with his profile as not everyone fancies overweight men

Which is why he chose the photos he did, like many other men on OLD. At least he has a good personality- some of them don't have that, either. (They may think that about me, too.)

He's wasting everyone's time he should have a photo of him showing his body properly.