I’m very pregnant (due any day) and DP has lost his temper with me twice in the last few weeks and it has me very concerned about what he will be like when baby is here.
Whilst baby was planned and we have both been very excited, I think overall in his life he is not happy. Particularly work related issues. And no he will not seek help, I have been around in circles with him over this. He had a very bad experience with therapy in his late teens and now trusts no councillor or therapist.
Incident one occurred because I was asking him to either get a new phone or to carry an emergency brick phone - his is SO old that it has failed on him many times and makes getting hold of him when out difficult. This concerns me for when baby is here and I might need to contact him. He refuses. Eventually he snapped and shouted whilst hitting his head saying ‘I just can’t do anything right’ and this scared me.
just now we were talking about bullying. He was bullied in school and said his parents involvement made it worse. So as future parents I asked what he would have had them do differently. I didn’t agree with all of his suggestions which eventually lead to him shouting at me about why he didn’t move school. I was not shouting or being aggressive myself, I thought we were just having a discussion until he snapped.
when he snaps it’s very sudden, I don’t see it coming and it worries me that it might escalate. He has never previously been violent and this seems to be a new behaviour.
weve been together 5 years and I thought we were happy. Now I’m scared that if things are like this now. God knows what he will be like when we are sleep deprived with a newborn.
i don’t really know what I’m asking you, more of a vent I suppose and looking for opinions. Maybe I’m overreacting and imagining the worst but I’m also concerned he can’t control his emotions/reactions and that worries me a lot.