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Anything I can do?

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patsy999 · 01/01/2023 23:18

I had a breakdown in November and ever since then my partner has been really horrible to me. His ended the relationship, but won't move out till May when he gets his holiday pay.
It's a council tenancy in my name. When I was first ill he was telling me to commit suicide, that I was mental and that he was going to smash the Motability car up.
Now its just the odd, nasty comment, but his still being really nice to everyone round me.
I don't think I can last till May. even the police bought him back, saying that's where he lives. After he was being particularly nasty, I called them out.

OP posts:
B1rd · 02/01/2023 01:38

As it's your property give him a date, tell him that his belongings will be outside and change the locks on that date.

BeckyBoo16 · 02/01/2023 01:42

He sounds like a horrible man! You are definitely better off without him and the trouble and stress he brings to your life and your mental health.
The property is in your name so you within your right to kick him out, like pp says, give him a date and pack bags and change the locks, maybe also get a friend or relative over after changing the locks in case he kicks off etc.

Hopefully you can see the back of him for good before May though!

DivorcingEU · 02/01/2023 08:25

What a bastard OP.

I agree with giving him a date (no more than two weeks). Do it in writing so you have proof. You don't actually need to give him notice, which you could also bring to his attention.

And then call the police if he doesn't leave. And if possible get a camera (Amazon) on your focussed mobility scooter (I'm assuming it's outside?) so there's footage if he does attack it.

Do you have any friends or family who could become involved. The more people he sees physically supporting you the better.

I'd like to say just bag his stuff up, change the locks and put everything outside, but I'm worried he'll kick off even more than. However, you'd not be wrong to do that and if you did you could call the police if he kicks off.

It seems there's no way out of this without stress though, so please lean on anybody you can.

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