Has anyone divorced a narcissist?

[bubblegumunicorn]

So I've been needing out of my relationship almost since the beginning but something has always tied me too him

We have been married 5 years together 10 have 2 children a house and he has complete control over my finances...

I'm about to finish maternity leave and feel like now is the time to go I'm just so scared to leave I have no idea how to do it or if it's possible to get him out of our home (why should I have to uproot my kids?)

I'd love to hear some stories of how you did it and how hard it really was I need to be armed with this to get us out (ADHD fear has me paralysed so anything will help!)

A few bits that I feel are relevant is he never stops talking about sex, he refuses to buy things for the kids (I do it all) and he doesn't believe he can be happy where we live which he makes my problem (oh and he's isolated me from everyone except my mum but he's trying so hard to put a nail in that coffin 🙈

We need to be free this year! He's not having another year of my life (thank you if you've read this far!)

I haven’t, but firstly, pick up the phone and call your mum. Tell her. The rest can wait. Good luck.

Well done for being able to see what is going on and making a decision to leave. These are two huge milestones. It is good advice above to now start sharing with trusted people. After this the next big milestone is to actually leave. I did. I read lots of stories online and much as they horrified me and filled me with dread, knowledge is power. As such once I had built up enough strength to leave, I had my eyes wide open and as a result made some sensible decisions on how to protect myself and the kids - all because I’d learnt from other women and listened to their advice and experience. Women’s aid wisely said to me don’t tell him until you’ve gone and we can’t advise you on what he will do as you know him best so use all your understanding of him to help you plan. Both were great bits of advice. All the best. You are stronger than you think.