I’m at my wits end. My ex husband likes to play (mind) games and after several years it just feels relentless as well as tiring, annoying and infuriating. I thought he would have stopped this by now as he’s got a gf and they live together. Does it ever stop or do I just have to wait until my kids are 18 and then cut him out of my life completely?
I admit, at first, I tried to be friendly and flexible with him but that obviously didn’t work out as he took advantage of it and it all went wrong. And I think he’s really pushing for a reaction at the moment because I’ve set up stronger boundaries after some events last summer. I don’t talk to him anymore when he picks up the kids or I drop them off, and he can only contact me by email now and I’ve blocked him everywhere else. Sometimes I feel like I should confront him but then I just remind myself that the best thing to do is not to react. But is it? Or should I play his game and just tell him that he can’t see the kids if he’s late, for example? But then it would just be the kids and I who would suffer… and I have a feeling that he would enjoy playing the victim of not being able to see the kids… So do I just keep on not reacting for the next several years? Please tell me how to cope with this all. I just feel so worn down at the moment.
and sorry for being so vague. I’m trying to be as unrecognisable as possible, and I don’t think the details really matter as I’m only trying to find out the best ways to deal with him. But we live in separate countries now due to logistical factors out of my control. I basically work full time, have no family support nor time off. Kids are not in danger because he’s ultimately a Disney dad although he doesn’t see them very often.
Thanks for reading.