Relationship after a baby

[annoyed95]

Hi,

My LO is almost one and absolutely the best thing that has ever happened to me. Since he had been born, however, my husband and I can't stand each other. Everything we do annoys the other, we both feel the other doesn't do enough, and generally can't stand being around each other.

Is this normal? I'm a FTM if that makes any difference. The other couples in our NCT group seem happy and we are anything but with each other. We have never had the perfect marriage, but I feel like I am reaching my limit and not sure what to do anymore.

How old is your baby? I felt like this for a few years actually. I think you can easily lose your identity and feel like you’re doing everything on top of that.
I felt furious with my DH for years; I had no time for him, my brain was saturated with the children. Everything he did would annoy me. I don’t know how we survived-at various points he did challenge me as I was extremely vicious and unreasonable. So I think it’s pretty normal. X

How was the relationship before the baby arrived?

@BasicItch, he is 10.5 months. I know I have been out of order. I do think I have PND, which isn't me making an excuse, but it frustrates me as I feel he thinks he does nothing wrong. Thanks for your reply xx

@TwilightSkies I don't think we have ever had the perfect relationship. Always felt second best. I think the cracks have just been amplified.

Did you read what Michelle Obama said in a recent interview about her relationship with Barack when her kids were little? It came out a few days ago

exactly this.