Mil is in her final days. Unexpected illness but gradual decline over a period of 2 3 weeks. Understandably DH is heartbroken. He is spending majority of time with her and SIL. Popping back for an hour to see children and eat. He had been unwell also meaning he hadn't been able to sleep overnight with her until tonight.
He was very close to mil almost an enmeshed relationship, a lot of the time I played second fiddle but in the main was happy to go along with it as she was on her own. Both SIL and MIL heavily rely on DH for emotional support. SIL almost a father replacement. SIL is married with 2 children but doesn't have any emotional support from her DH. Fil passed when both in early twenties now in early 40s. Mil is early 80s. We have been together over 20 years married over 16
I am obviously doing everything I can to support DH, working taking care of children etc I have absolutely no issue with this.
However for me emotionally I am struggling he is not talking or communicating with me at all. Other people yes. Last week prior to the news being brought forward to days rather than weeks he was completely the other way and overly sexual. I understand his emotions are all over the place but how do I manage mine ?
When the inevitable happens what do I do? How best do I support him if he doesn't acknowledge me or talk to to me?
Anyone with any advice I would be grateful.