When would you introduce your children to a new partner?

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I don’t have children. I’m asking because a friend has introduced their child at 5 months.

We waited 2 years, had wanted to do it at about 1.5 years but one of the kids wasn't doing great so we waited. Think it really depends on the age of the kids, where they're at in their lives, personalities and all that? I'd say never before 6 mo myself

In my experience you need to see how he interacts with your dc to know if he's a keeper.

Imagine investing years into a relationship (and it's harder when they're not integrated into your life) and then you don't like how he speaks to your child or they just don't get along.

I am upfront to my children.

I met someone for a coffee as they live with me 24/7 they asked where I was going and I told them.

they are what he was like I said I like him and he seems really nice they are pleased for me

met him again always for a pub / cafe etc I will probably continue like this until he comes over for a coffee walk and they will meet him as a friend

he won’t stay over etc

I won’t snog him etc in front of the kids / he will visit as a friend

what’s the issue?

if we decide after a year to move in we will discuss it me with the children and him as adults and mature people taking into account everyone’s views.

my childrens only concern is that he is nice and treats me welll they know I won’t bring a knob head or cock lodger into our home

Not true it was said if you don’t want to do that then you will be alone forever I was surprised more people weren’t shocked by the suggestion of my children tagging along on dates given MN 10 year rule! 😏 and people did suggest I go to groups where I can meet single dads with my children there 🤦🏻

I also find these questions weird. What difference does 5mo or 1 year into relationship make, it'll still be a day one for the children.
I think its more how long after you separated from their dad, and if that's settled. If it is, then whenever you feel the relationship is moving into the right direction, I'd introduce.
My kids are teens and I haven't introduced yet as divorce is too recent and frankly I'm more concerned about putting them in an odd situation with their dad, but I hate lying or being dismissive about where I'm going so slowly telling them I met someone I like, and asking if and how they'd like to meet him. They dont seem too bothered and said maybe a cinema and coffee sometime would be nice.
I'm keen to introduce as he's lovely and it'd make our schedule easier if we didnt have to completely avoid each others kids, but might wait to see if ex does it first so no drama there...
We've been together for 8mo "officially", my divorce has been taking 18 so desperate to end limbo and split lives...!

I did after about 3 months, but only as a friend. Never staying over or in the house, just day trips out. She would never see us be affectionate, but DD was only 3. Started staying over 12-18 months, 2.5 years until he moved in.

Depends on the circumstances. A person you plan on only ever seeing casually- never. But if you’re looking for a life partner with plans to move in together, I think a year is ridiculously long. I couldn’t imagine investing an entire year of my life and allowing myself to fall in love with someone, and then finding out their kids are complete arseholes and I can’t bare to be around them (or vice versa). If you’re using common sense and there’s no red flags then I don’t see the point to waiting until specially x date just for the sake of it

Hi all, just thought I'd share my kids have finally met him on my bday as we went out for lunch with friends (1,5 year down the line but mainly because I still dont want ex to know).
I had told them about him before, so they knew when I was seeing him, but asked and waited until they felt ok to meet him...
It was weird for kids but fine in the end :)
Since they saw him one more time briefly, think it's still early to do "fam days out" together but it's a relief that they know.
I still haven't met his kids, he hasn't told them yet though I did meet his mum 🤣
Think he's weary of kids being upset or something as a bit younger. I don't mind, in a way worry if he tells kids can somehow guilt trip him for seeing me instead of them or something...
Given my ex volatility and fact I'm trying to leave an abusive relationship nehind, think we'll still have to take things slow for a while but I'm ok with how it is now. Wish we could meet more often but hopefully it'll come :)

I waited a year. And since then they meet pretty sporidically