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Friends husband

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Mummyto4beautys · 31/12/2022 19:28

Hi, my friends husband as a nickname for my child. My partner doesn't like this and thinks I'm cheating on him with my friends husband. Me and my partner are supposed to be getting married in 2024 but I don't know what to do, apart from him accusing me of this we're good. What would you do if you was in this situation.

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 31/12/2022 19:34

Call off the wedding and end the relationship.

No good ever comes of being in a relationship with someone who uses flimsy and spurious 'reasons' to accuse you of cheating.

DifferentYearSameShit · 31/12/2022 19:40

Are you having an affair - why does your partner assume you are just because he has a nickname for your child?? Is there more your not telling? If there isn't then I'd tell my partner there's nothing going on and never has been and if he doesn't believe me he can walk out the door but I won't be having this discussion again.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 31/12/2022 19:42

Even if that truly is the only issue it’s a pretty big one.

Assuming you aren’t having an affair I’d tell you partner the wedding is off. I’m fact the relationship will need to end if he continues to think you are cheating. Because what’s the point.

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Mummyto4beautys · 31/12/2022 19:43

DifferentYearSameShit · 31/12/2022 19:40

Are you having an affair - why does your partner assume you are just because he has a nickname for your child?? Is there more your not telling? If there isn't then I'd tell my partner there's nothing going on and never has been and if he doesn't believe me he can walk out the door but I won't be having this discussion again.

No I'm not having an affair. Yeah it's just because he's got a nickname for him.

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determinedtomakethiswork · 31/12/2022 19:50

Your partner sounds insane. Why on earth would you marry him?

villamariavintrapp · 31/12/2022 19:56

Yeh ditch him, or you'll spend your life walking on eggshells trying to prove yourself to someone jealous and irrational.

Emmamoo89 · 31/12/2022 19:59

Leave him. You're worth more than that.

Beautiful3 · 31/12/2022 20:06

Your partner's being werid and cruel. I wouldn't marry him.

GoT1904 · 31/12/2022 20:09

Can you ask your partner for his thought process on this? Because it doesn't make any sense to me

tiggergoesbounce · 31/12/2022 20:10

Surely, he can't just think this over a nickname for your child ?

No, i wouldn't marry him if this were the case.

Aussiegirl123456 · 31/12/2022 20:25

Echo the other posts. Why would you marry him and put yourself through that? It’ll only get worse.

Justcallmebebes · 31/12/2022 20:27

Massive, massive red flag. No way would I marry him

Justcallmebebes · 31/12/2022 20:30

And yes please, what's his thought process on this as it's pretty random but then men who do this, accuse their partners of imaginary affairs, often have very spurious reasons?

Laneyly · 31/12/2022 20:31

I mean I'm going to be honest, why is someone making up a nickname for your child, clearly it's inappropriate to the extent that your partner is concerned. I'd be more worried about that man trying to groom your child. I know it's morbid but stuff like this happens every day

IncompleteSenten · 31/12/2022 20:31

Don't marry him.
That's a hint of things to come!

birder · 31/12/2022 20:34

Depends on the nickname.

ChristineCagney11 · 31/12/2022 20:39

Unless the nickname is "Son/daughter of mine" then it's a bit weird and a red flag.
Has he out of the blue accused you?

CatLick · 31/12/2022 20:49

TBH your stuck between two weirdos. Who gives someone's child a nickname unless its "young Messi" or "future Lioness"... Is it complimentary?

Your partner may be right in this case. Though the detail is critical here...

Bertha21 · 31/12/2022 22:00

I’m sure there is more than just that red flag. I married someone who didn’t trust me because of his previous failed relationship. There was a whole list of issues he hadnt told me about. Be very aware.

Zanatdy · 31/12/2022 22:10

I’d never marry someone who was accusing me of having an affair, not matter what the reason for suspecting

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