I know this is probably a bad idea but I feel compelled to do it

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My ex husband and I separated 2 years ago. He left out of the blue and in a few weeks it came out he was having an affair.
I have since found out that he has done this in his previously 2 long term realrionships too. In fact I was unknowingly the other woman in the one before me, I did not know until recently that there was an overlap. This ex partner I know was very heartbroken but their split (I thought it was months prior to us meeting) and made several attempts at contacting me at that time (12 years ago) and a few times since. He painted her as a bitter ex so I didn’t engage in the discussion.
i feel really compelled to reach out to her now to say that I’ve now experienced the same thing and maybe to explain that I didn’t realise they were still together. Probably a crazy idea but it’s been on my mind since I found out

dont, leave it alone

Please leave her alone. She must have taken it really badly to try and contact you over several years.

It’s likely she has now lived past this. Please do not drag it all up for her again, for your own benefit.

I think you need to start moving on from him too. It’s difficult, I know. But it’s been 2 years. You are still involving yourself in his toxicity by mulling over what you should or shouldn’t do.

No, don't disturb her now.

Christ - I know where you're coming from, but I wouldn't - just like I haven't - mind you, I've left a message for the new woman to say things aren't as they seem, and to ping me if she ever needs to talk, because I know what she's getting herself into, and I feel sorry for her.