How to people manage going NC with sibling if their parents are still alive?
I have one brother and for many many reasons I made the decision to go NC. The reasons I suppose aren’t really important but involve, violence, treats of violence, intimidation, drugs, alcohol etc. my mother is still very much involved (over involved?) in his life and treats him like a child who holds no responsibility for his actions, although I find this very frustrating I’ve accepted that at the end of the day he is her child and she can’t see things for how they are.
The problem is that my mother and I are still very close (see each other most day, helps us with childcare, and is a great support to me and my family) but she can not accept the decision I have made and is always putting me on the spot asking if he can come to dinner, come to family gatherings that I have organised and discussing him with me when I have asked her not to. I end up feeling guilty and like I’m the bad one and don’t really know how to negotiate this.