Do I cut contact

[Ebony72]

Long story short I am in a very long term abusive relationship, about 3 years I got close to a friend of 10 years - he is married ( unhappy sexless marriage ) ( yes he’s telling the truth ) I guess we’ve had a emotional affair as nothing has happened as we live miles apart as he moved to a different city around 4 years ago.
He blows hot and cold one minute he says he is separating from his wife a few months later he says he isn’t and staying at least till his kids are older .
my friend knows about my relationship being awful and difficult but we got close via texts and phone calls emails etc , started sexting at one point too : he sent a explicit photo - his wife found out about this and of course wasn’t happy but apparently told him she knew the marriage is dead and there together for the children, she told him he used me as I’m vulnerable ( he told her my fella is abusive and he’s been supporting me for years)
anyway so we cut contact briefly no texting at all and just emails I asked him if he wanted to start texting sometime next year he said no because the photo caused him problems and he don’t want it happening again.
surely it’s his fault for sending the photo in the first place rather than blaming me? I am feeling like I should just cut contact but he’s my only contact and friend so I’m unsure.
I have feelings for him but after the last few emails I don’t think he’s the man I thought he was.

advice please

You are vulnerable. Types like your friend sniff out vulnerability at 1000 paces. He is not good news for you. You have clearly been dealt a difficult hand over the last while. I think you need to sort that out to help you move forward and ti help you pick better people to have around you.

I'd be skeptical that the conversation with his wife over that picture went the way he told you.

Absolutely cut off contact completely. Bring breadcrumbed by a married man is not going to give you the healing or strength you need in order to leave your abusive relationship for good.

I wish you healing. You CAN get free.

He blows hot and cold

You do not need this in your life! This is a red flag of a potentially abusive relationship and you don't need a second toxic relationship in your life.

But particularly with being in a long term abusive relationship you need and deserve support of people who are consistent and reliably kind. I think you would be best to cut contact and put energy into building new friendships and leaving your abusive relationship.

Thanks all , I thought that would be the case.
i feel sad because he is my only friend really but I definitely don’t want to be used or feel unimportant which he’s made me feel. If I cut contact would you tell him or just not reply to emails etc