was it abuse?

[Peggy1234]

my dad used to physically drag me across the house by my feet was this assault? he also pinned me down and screamed in my face that I was worthless and nothing.

Yes this was and is abuse physical and emotional in black and white. He should never of lay a hand on you and he should never of said those untrue things.

i hope you’re okay and we are all here for you xxx

That is unequivocally abusive behaviour.

Yes. Without a doubt.

Yes without a doubt

Interestingly my dad would give me a "hiding" when I was little and misbehaved, that would be considered physical abuse nowadays, but I don't consider it.

He would never have spoken to me like that.

Yes I think so how old were you and how long ago did this happen? I only ask because I’m currently processing that my dad was abusive around 15 years ago to my older brother ( who was 20-25) at the time) he had some issues so would rant and rave at my parents my dad used to hit him , kicked him in the back from the sofa once and call him dead meat etc now they have a normal relationship my brother still lives with my parents he has problems so wouldn’t be able to live independently safe to say I moved out when I was 17 to get away from it now I look back and know it was abuse It’s difficult to process the last few years .

What do you think?

That’s awful OP. How is your relationship with your DF now? My DF never spoke to me like that but what he did physically would be considered abuse now. Yet he’s one of the kindest, most generous men I know. His parents were absolutely awful to each other & I guess his anger came from them. I scare myself with my anger sometimes & have actually had anger management, although people meeting me would never think it in a million years. I think I need to deal with what my DF did ( smacking me including round the head, grabbing me by the scruff of the neck etc). DM used to smack me too but never round the head. When I write it down, it shocks me. Are you able to speak to your DF about what happened OP?

That definitely sounds like physical and emotional abuse! Don’t let anyone think it is not.
it might be good to get it out of your system and chat about it in a therapy?
I had some abuse from dad and experienced him beating my mum up. This kind of stuff stays with you and can unconsciously affect your life, the choices you make in life.
I hope you are doing okay.

I thought I was ok for a long time until it resurfaced, and I realised mum mum was telling me to not ‘wind him up, or you will loose him’ - I did not realise I was actually in an abusive relationship myself, and mum was just reticulating her own abusive relationship by telling me that !

Do you have children now?

It's frightening that people can't see this is abuse. It's frightening that many women are conditioned into thinking it's usual behaviour.

Yes I do but this isn’t my thread