What is dating like post mid 40s and into 50s ?

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Sometimes dh winds me up, I do love him but certain things annoy me,
like him watching old X factor with the kids on YouTube which is basically just laughing at people and kind of laughing at bullying.
Our kids are not the most confident as it is so I think this kinda stuff doesn't help

he would say that I’m being well over the top and over sensitive

He also just never really makes me feel super loved
he’s not super affectionate
like cuddling me loads etc

bit I also don’t know if im realistic at all about whatelse is out there

Usually older men and women have different experiences. For a single 50 year old guy that has done decent financially they actually have a large dating pool of women aged from 20 to 55 to choose from.

Older women aged 50 or above who want serous relationship their pool of dating will be significantly smaller from age 45 to 60. Eligible men of this age bracket will want women in their 30s at least.

Dating is hardest for younger men and older women.

Gosh, dating is terrible out there! But better alone than miserable. You sound irritated, not miserable.