Married with 2 tween kids, relationship not great, but I always seem to be waiting for signs that all be well eventually. Dh asked what are we doing for new years, I know it's late to planning it, but honestly I just thought it would nice to have some fizz and a fun evening at home. It's been an exhausting year and we've not got family around to babysit etc (moved 3 years ago to another town). I said 'what would you like to do ideally' and 'what might you like to do if more realistically if that's not possible'. He said, ideally he'd like to get a babysitter and go to the pub (a fun one with DJs and cocktails) with me and another single friend of his in town. And if we can't do that then we would have a drink at home and then he'd go to said pub with said friend in town and I would stay at home 'like last year'. I'd honestly erased this from my memory, but now I remember that is what happened, and I was hurt last year. And now I feel hurt again. I just feel it's more evidence that I'm not loved, I'm not the person he wants to be with. He would always make a thing of how much he hated new year, the pressure of it, and I agreed, but actually he does want to 'do' something and so much so that he'd happily leave me at home on my own two years in a row. I asked if the friend would like to come over here and he said no, which is fair enough. Just feel a bit gutted. What would you do?