Hi all,
I have been in a relationship 7 years with a man who I find to be emotionally abusive.
I am 39 , and desperately want children and a normal family.
Should I have a baby with this man? What are my alternatives ?
I am coming from an abusive family where I am mostly ignored. No siblings. Xmass has a way of reminding us of this isn't it?
My support system is low to non existent. I also lost a significant amount of friends lately , and somehow my friendships have always been one sided.
I mentioned my bf ignores me at times too , last time he did this was last night in a board game where his brother attended. He treats his brother very well , respectfully and is talkative. With us he is different. I told him he 100% ignored me, he denies it, and moreover says his brother also disagrees. He said it's in my mind because my parents never gave me any attention. But I find that my needs are not met.
Questions:
- How can I find someone non-abusive at 39 to still have kids?
- Can I still build at 39( in London ... non English) a support system that goes beyond pleasentries?
- Can one love oneself enough and make the choice to be alone with 0 support?