We're both 30 and female. I had a lovely friend who had her baby 10 months ago. We have been friends for around 5 years. We used to see each other regularly and we really enjoyed each other’s company. I’ve not heard from her much at all since having her baby (understandably), except one text from her to state that she was feeling less low and that motherhood was getting better. She has a history of depression and has previously told me about bad thoughts that she has had. She’s always been off the social media grid entirely and is the type of person to rarely respond to text messages.
When she was pregnant, I asked for her address specifically to send her something but she was quite coy as she didn’t want me to send her anything. She is very well off so doesn't really need much. We’re both from an Asian culture, and this is quite a common thing to do - to avoid accepting gifts easily. We don’t easily share addresses or birthdays. We don't easily accept gifts. She always guesses my birthday and congratulates me.
After the baby was born, she sent me a video and photos to introduce her.
I’ve visited her a few times and I have her address (found it in my notebook recently). I’d like to send her something for the baby’s birthday. I don’t want to overstep the mark however as maybe after becoming a mother, she has re-evaluated her friendships or perhaps she just wants to lay low. Would it be odd to send her something, for example just a birthday card? I thought it might mean a little more than a text.
Really grateful for all advice.