Now, I'm pretty new to this, been with partner for about 7 months and met his ex-wife three or four times with his children.
For background she has a bf, and the marriage has been over for 3 years.
And yet she has told him she finds it emotionally difficult that he has a new, partner and asked him not to be affectionate with me in her presence. She spent a long monologue telling me how the break up was all his fault and how angry his son was at him and how she had relied on the children for emotional support (they would have not even been teens at this point). Also how he dumped his last partner for her, and then a catalogue of his faults, quirks and that he is awful with emotions and communication.
All this in front of him and her bf, as we both tried to play nice. Was I supposed to stand up and say, oh, maybe he's not for me then and take off?
I've met my ex husbands new gf, and didn't say anything like that!
Given i do spend time with her children, we thought she'd like to assure herself I'm a nice person. Don't think I'll bother now.
Is this a common experience? I suspect it could have been worse?