How do you find love?

[weddinglovepure]

Hi,
I am hopeless romantic in life. Just hopeless of finding a man who truly dedicate his love to me. Not crazy for me but atleast sure about me.
I am just so done with everything.

How one find love anyway? How two people find each other and be on the same page?

Are there any offline ways that you could suggest?
I am an introvert and I don't have a big social group so my weekends are mostly at home.

All my friends are committed, they barely get time for me.

My experience with dating apps have been ridiculous, I've been ghosted and cheated and catfished, what not!

I am in dire need of help.

Thank you so much for reading.

Your thoughts are appreciated.

💖

What are you offering? This Prince Charming you're after - what's in it for him?

Go out and do some activities. Things you enjoy, yourself. Make your single life fuller and happy, whilst respecting your need for time alone.

You will enjoy life more, and it won't matter to you so much about finding a man to fill a gap; you'll be filling it yourself. You may well meet someone then, but if you're loving your single life, he'll have to be quite a guy to rival it. That's when you discover that you've developed self respect and boundaries.

Just do stuff you enjoy. Organised walks, art gallery tours, running club, knitting group, music classes, whatever floats your boat.

Introvert or not, you can’t find someone if you’re sitting at home all weekend…

Best to find a person who is into the same things you are. How do you picture your ideal weekend for instance?

I would suggest hobby/interest groups. That way you can network with like-minded people.

Also voluntary work can be rewarding as well as extending your pool of people.

Its not easy. I feel you. I gave up with dating apps a year ago and won't be going back to them. You really do have to 'get out there' I'm afraid as hes not just going to turn up at your door. I have a dog so join some organised dog walks which is a good way to meet people. I do go out to more local-style pubs with a friend every few weeks and have met and chatted to people there too. Not met a man I fancy yet but it might happen. You really do just have to get out there and join groups/hobbies etc.

They won’t come through the chimney. Get out there and start meeting people.

Hobbys, sports, clubs of whatever interests you have. Volunteering, church, take part in the local choir. Travel!

You can’t be sat on the sofa expecting love to find you on its own. Get up and go find it.

Most people don't find love, a lot settle because they're afraid to end up childless/not married/also financially worse off so they "need" to pair up to obtain these things. It's subtle and very few would admit what they're truly felt.

OLD is hard and doesn't work for many. The apps are designed to be commercially viable for th companies who have created them, in other words to keep people on the apps for as long as possible. I agree with others that meeting people while out and about might be more successful but you need to put yourself out there and try out different groups.

How old are you? Have you got a varie and fulfilling life apart from not having a romantic partner? Why would someone choose you??

OLD is hard and doesn't work for many

It's not hard unless you try to engage with people you don't gel with, or get emotionally attached before you know someone. How hard it is directly correlates to how clear and strong your own boundaries are.

It's very common these days for successful relationships to start via OLD, so although there are many it doesn't work for, there are also many it does work for. The problems come from expecting someone to be compatible with you/decent because they're good looking in their picture. Beyond that, you're simply meeting random people, and the way they behave has nothing to do with OLD.

OLD gets a lot of flak, but nobody you meet that way can hurt you any more than someone you meet a different way.