Can’t sleep

[Richy22]

My wife recently left me after a substantial time together out the blue , no warning no reason nothing , still on good terms but it’s pretty much stopped me in my tracks in everything I do , can’t eat and especially can’t sleep , the constant thinking about it is tough , anyone else have similar effects and if so does it get better

It's interesting how you are still on good terms even after she left you and gave you no good reason for it. I'd be pretty pissed if that happened to me and would need to know what the heck changed. I feel like maybe you are being too nice about the situation. Are you a people pleaser?

I'm in a similar situation, although I ended the relationship because I wasn't happy and couldn't see a way to fix it. I'm struggling to sleep, my mind is overactive and can't switch off. I'm overcompensating by eating too much crap but can't be bothered to cook meals.

I imagine it heals with time, I hope so. I tell myself I just need to get through the next hour, the next day and don't think about long term. I so nice things that I enjoy, so listening to music, reading, playing with my pets. I also write a journal, just to get all the rubbish thoughts out of my head and it does seem to help. I got a fairly structured one, so it has sections in each page for things that went well, things I have to do, self care, brain dump, notes etc and I find that helps. I bought it on Etsy.

Don’t know why I can’t be angry with her or make her explain more , it’s like I still need the contact with her without that it would be even more devastating , clearly I did something wrong or maybe not perhaps she just wanted different things

im sure it will get better but it just feels like Groundhog Day with a whirlpool of thoughts and doesn’t seem to be much relief

Well it will be like Groundhog Day until you get some answers. It's mental cruelty.

She's just upped and left?

I think you should ask her why. You might find some positive benefits emerge for you.