Question on partner or DH you are no longer attracted to...

[Newyear23]

I am no longer attracted to my DH and can not bring my self to have sex with him. I just can't have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. Just wondering if I'm the only one out there. Are you still attracted to you DP/DH? If not do you just have sex with him anyway?

I never thought I would get to this point but here I am. I also miss the spark of being attracted to someone and enjoying sex.

Do you think there's any trigger to this, anything happen, anything he's done?

I'm just not physically attracted to him anymore. Yes I also think there has been a few triggers that have contributed to my feelings.

This is a tough one. Did it just suddenly fizzle out?

Apart from the sex, do you love him and is he good to you?

I ended up in that situation, he still wanted sex with me and refused to stay if it was a sexless relationship. I ended up leaving

I would really struggle and in my experience my body would stop performing iyswim. I’ve had this before. Things stop working

I go through periods of not finding my husband attractive, but I still absolutely adore him and I know how important sex is to a relationship, so even when I'm not feeling attracted to him I make the effort to have sex with him anyway - the more that I fuck him the more fuckable I find him.

Maybe get some relationship counselling of you have a good connection in other areas.

I've just had this, been in a prolonged period of just not liking him because he had become a happiness Grinch, taking the fun out of everything I said or did. I didn't want to have sex because to me after the years we have been together laughing and joy are what make me want to have sex with him. I told him on Christmas Day evening this. He went away for a bit and came back and said yes, you are right, I've been a grumpy, joy sponge, I'm sorry.
We cuddled then had really great sex. We woke up the next morning, Boxing Day, arms and legs entwined just happy. Hadn't happened for three months.