Can you recommend me a dating app?

[Strangerontheshore]

I'm early 50s, been divorced 10 years and during that time had one relationship with someone I met IRL. That ended a while back and I'm now ready to dating again.

I'm considering OLD but have no idea where to start. Not interested in hook ups or anything like that, just dating with a view to eventually finding a like minded soul to share life with. Which apps/sites do you recommend?

Well, you would say he's "gorgeous".... I've see what's on offer and past 30 it is very slim pickings, but if you're not attractive yourself you can only really pick from what's available. It all depends what your market value is...

Wow, that's bitchy!

Genuinely surprised by the 'OLD cesspit' comment.

I'm a 50s m on Bumble, and most of the women I see there are well-presented, educated professionals who say they are looking for a serious relationship. In my experience, those who aren't looking for serious relationships are equally well-presented and educated. I've made good friends via OLD.

Maybe some sites are worse than Bumble; maybe I'm lucky in the area I live in; maybe the men on most dating sites are completely different from the women (I don't see their profiles so I don't know)...

What I do know is that my experience of Bumble is nothing like a cesspit. It would be a shame if one person's bad experience put people off unnecessarily.

I've been online dating for years. It's awful. I've never heard one real life success story from online dating, only ghosting, convicted paedophiles, extreme BDSM lovers, married men etc

All the apps have the same people on. Go on all of them so you can see that the well to do, respectable guy who says he's looking for a relationship on Bumble says on Tinder that he's just looking for fun and on Feeld that he's into DDLG 🤢

Thank you all for sharing your experiences and the varied perspectives - finding it very helpful.

I know a few people who have met partners on hinge and bumble. Like others said you do have to weed through the crap but the people I know are genuinely happy with the people they met on there. A work colleague is OLD and I love hearing about it. I was very tempted myself to sign up a couple of months ago then 2 days later an ex colleague asked me out for a drink which is going very well so I’ve been saved for now! Go for it! Enjoy - I’m so enjoying this as I’ve been single over a decade, loving the excitement of a new relationship

I think bumble is the best free one, I know of successful outcomes, my experience has been mixed just my advice is meet up fast be upfront about expectations and take nothing personal. There are really nice people and really awful. Keep in mind personal safety and be prepared that some people are using old photos I always ask for a video chat before meeting and always use recent photos and full length photos. Good luck 😊

maybe the men on most dating sites are completely different from the women

Not all of them, but a good percentage of men do not seem to realise they should make at least a little effort to sell themselves. I think women do make more effort - not least because men won't be shy about telling us when they think we look awful. Shame they do not reflect this on themselves.

I’ve met some attractive men online dating (yes in real life, so not catfish!). My experience has been that there’s obviously some who have been single for a long time for a reason 🙄 but some who are a while out of long term relationships much like myself. I obviously find the guy I’m dating attractive! I guess not everyone would but I like him and he likes me 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s not purely about looks, it’s about personality and connection.

Thank you all again. I've bitten the bullet and joined Tinder today. Very interesting to say the least!

After all the advice, you pick Tinder?? 😂

Haha yep. Bumble was my first choice to be honest but the app kept freezing on my phone. Wouldn't even get past the loading stage.

So Tinder it is at the moment. But with the advice on here have gone into it with my eyes open.

I’m on Bumble and agree it’s the best one I’ve tried. Enough info that you’re not solely basing it on photos (those who don’t fill in the prompts or say “just ask” get a left swipe for being lazy!) but doesn’t take forever to fill in.

I like that women make the first move, and you only chat if you match, so you don’t get inundated with unsuitable twats saying “hey sexy”. Obviously there’s the odd dubious one, but mainly just a selection of men from unattractive, via moderately attractive, to objectively good looking. The ones I tend to swipe right aren’t the best looking, but have made an effort on their bio, have a nice smile, and say something that suggests compatibility in terms of lifestyle.

Bumble hinge
and pay for it , better functionality that way

Hinge! You get a better idea of personalities, what they find interesting and humour. For those that bother to fill it in properly at least!

I met DP on tinder, we've been together just over a year

Do not bother with outime - seemed like a good idea for over 50's but I've never seen a site with as many sad dregs that nobody would want. The same people all the time - unless near Nottingham, for some reason all the best ones seem to be in that area.

You met and have already married in a year? Wow that is quick!!!!

anotherdisaster

i know right 😂
if IF I venture back I’d do FEELD or hinge

Lol, I wonder if it was a case of major "settling"?

I tried muddy matches with a unique disposable email which included ‘muddymatches’ and they sold my details or had some kind of data breach. I got loads of junk mail.

I met my partner on Bumble. I found it easy to use, it's free and easy to delete your account contrary to what an PP said. I would include as many up to date photos as possible including full length.

Interesting. .

Zoosk. Met my now fiancé on there. I googled " best OLD" and it came up. DP did the same.