Awkward situation with ex please help

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Really need advice about something, I split up with my ex over a year ago but we currently share a dog together, up until now it’s worked ok but she’s got behaviour problems which have gotten worse and I now think she needs to be with one of us more consistently so she can have proper dog training etc.

I don’t any judgement because it was a really difficult time at the break up as I was also going through my 3rd miscarriage (I do want children in the future) I have a new partner who is understanding and also very good with the dog. I’ve broached the topic with my ex but it’s obviously a difficult conversation to have as we both love the dog a lot but he is sometimes not easy to talk about these things with and can often make digs at me (which he did through the whole relationship hence one reason we aren’t together). And if I’m honest there are times when he can be a bully.

I’m 30 and own my own home but he currently lives back home with his mum and they also don’t have a lot of space to have the dog full-time.

I have broached it with my ex gently but he’s just left me on read. No judgement please, anyone have any advice on how I can broach this further, maybe anyone who has been in a similar situation?

Thanks

Why can't he have the dog fulltime? If he has it for half the week already, it's not really that different.

If he already has the dog half the time why can't he have it all the time?

I think if you feel strongly that the dog needs to live in just one place then you need to offer or that place to be your ex's. If he can have the dog half the week, there must be enough space, so I don't think the space argument washes.

Hi both,

In theory yes he could and it’s not about me just wanting her for myself (although neither of us would want to give her up ideally) because I want what’s best for her.

The only thing I have been considering is our circumstances and who would be able to put the time in for her etc, my living situation is more suited for a dog than his and I also work from home at least 3 days a week whereas he works shifts in a factory, although lives with his mum and also has a girlfriend so I assume he will be moving with her once he gets his act together etc, so dog isn’t on her own all the time when he’s at work.

I have messaged him again about having a conversation I guess I’m just anxious about how to approach it all because he can sometimes be quite nasty and was through the relationship, but the current situation just isn’t good long term for the dog and she really needs some proper training which has already been booked in.

I think approach it from a if he wants to have dog full time then fine or you can and he can still visit to tale out for a walk?