Is it judgemental?

[SpinningFloppa]

When does it become judgemental if you don’t want to date someone for certain reasons? On another group I’m on people were discussing if they would date someone who had their children removed from them. Well personally I wouldn’t and many said the same but apparently it’s “judgemental” to not want to date someone because their kids are in care, so where do you draw the line? Is it judgemental to not want to date someone who’s an ex addict? Or a criminal? Surely it’s ok to be “judgemental” when it comes to dating?

Doesn't matter if others think it's judgemental or not. You can not date someone for any reason you like.
I wouldn't date someone who's kids had been took into care either.

You're allowed to have standards. You are not an employer bound by equality of opportunity laws. You are not a charity.

The choice of life partner is deeply personal and monumental in terms of impacting your whole lifestyle and wellbeing.

So who cares if people think you are being judgemental?

My life my rules. I couldn't care less if someone called be picky or shallow or judgemental.

There's a difference between being gratuitously judgemental and making a judgement call

I would put choosing not to date someone who had their children removed to be a judgement call

Personally I would judge someone who dated a person who had kids removed from them as an absolute idiot. Now, that's judgemental.

Not sure if it's judgement or preference really?

But it's a silly argument anyway, as we're all free to not date people for any reason we choose.

Anyone who dates without using their judgment is an absolute fool. Who cares if anyone else thinks it's "judgemental", what does that even mean?

Saying what you like/want isn't the same as saying what you think is objectively right/wrong/good/bad.

That isn't being judgemental. You're just making choices based on available evidence and your own values.