I've been with boyfriend a couple of years, we live apart as both divorced with kids, separate households. He's shown some difficult behaviour recently, such as:
-I admired an Xmas light kit a few times, thought about it but concluded it was too expensive. He loved it too, bought it despite me saying i didnt have the money (£300) and set-up at my house (he enjoyed the set-up). I felt embarrassed, like I owed him money, he didn't explicitly ask for money but would've accepted I think (I didn't pay him though, as I didn't bloody choose to buy this item). It all made me feel uncomfortable.
-He stays two or three days sometimes, helps with some DIY but I have increased bills, feed him etc. I've suggested some shorter stays but he's quite insistent on coming. I find this quite stressful, as all I'm asking for is some space (eg I tell him I need to work, can he come a day later, he objects and justifies coming earlier saying he will come and be quiet so I can work). Despite asking him several times, he ignores what I ask and will turn up anyway.
-Yesterday my friend was coming over. I asked him if he could let us use the living room for a catch-up, told him the time the day before so he could move to the kitchen or go for a cycle. It was no surprise when we went to use the room but he was really 'busy' on a call to his kids and didnt want to move, so we had to use the breakfast bar in the kitchen whilst he used my living room.
I feel quite stressed that he keeps behaving this way. It's not that I'm not clear, he just seems to disregard my requests. I'm currently worried that he's going to turn up early when he knows I've said I'm busy with friends over on Wednesday. He knows the access code and has a key.