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Worried I've been filmed without my knowledge

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Forgetmenot54 · 26/12/2022 23:12

I met a guy online a few times and on one of these occasions, I went to his house. We both knew before I went there that we were most likely going to end up having sex and we did. He works from home and his laptop was in the corner of the room on his desk and open. I didn't think anything of it at the time.

After I left, we didn't contact each other, I guess it was just sex for both of us and once it happened there was no desire to see eachother again.

But now, I don't know why but I am terrified in case he has filmed it without me knowing.

I think the fact that he knew we were going to end up having sex and also because I never heard from him again after it has made me wonder. The laptop open as well for all i know could have been filming us. He is on a visa and has a good job, he's from outside the EU. I am hoping that this would deter him from doing anything like this as he wouldn't want to jeopardise that.

I don't have any reason to suspect that he filmed it, just my own imagination and overthinkkng possibly, but I can't help worry about it. I am a naturally anxious person. Am I being ridiculous? I did post this on the sex thread but didn't get much response. I don't want to contact him out of the blue and ask has he filmed us as he will prob think I'm mad.
I think I just feel guilty and bit disgusted at how he just used me for sex and also I know my life would be over if a video like that ever got out.

OP posts:
Beercrispsandnuts · 28/12/2022 10:57

Forgetmenot54 · 28/12/2022 10:36

I am never having casual sex again after this! I think I need to build some sort of rapport first. It's not worth the anxiety after.

I think that’s wise.

there is nothing wrong with just wanting sex. Although from a safety perspective I’d strongly advise not going to a strangers house like that. You could have had a real problem.

but if you want more than just a one off shag with a stranger, then don’t be going to their houses for sex like this. Go on a few dates. Coffee, drinks, lunch, dinner, walks, whatever , then when you feel you know and trust them , have sex.

the odds he was filming you are low to non existent. As said I think you’re just trying to find a reason why he didn’t wish to see you again and not make it he just wasn’t into you. It’s less hurtful that way

just look after yourself, have strong boundaries. And mostly stay safe.

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