How do I break up with him?

[OliveLover76]

People might remember me from my previous post a couple of days before Christmas. Obviously I now need to end things and I’ve been pondering over how to do it, could you all give me some idea of the best way?

Sadly, I don't think there is a best way. I wish I could offer the most perfect advice but I can't. Given there is no more context (in this thread) I will assume that it is a given that there is no risk of harm to you, in which case wouldn't need to be in a more social(ish) scene. If you were to be, then of course I would recommend telling a friend of relative of your plans and whereabouts.

I guess if you had a list of why you want to end it, and followed up with mental evidence (so there can be no counter), then at least you can give full reasoning. I would also be prepared that if the 'parting' feeling isn't mutual, then there maybe attempts to beg you to change your mind - of which will take mental strength to resist.

I would also ensure you have mapped out the living arrangements and a short term plan of what will happen with interests, shared friend interests, pets (if applicable), kids (if applicable), financial interests..

I would personally sit down in a quiet room with them and simply explain all of the above.

Good luck.

Thank you so much for that.

This is the link to my previous thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4703008-help-me-understand-who-is-in-the-wrong-here?reply=122455366

I think a phone call would suffice, or a text if you don't feel comfortable with that. You don't have to explain to him 'why' just 'this ain't working' is enough. Going by your precious thread it's unlikely you'll be able to have a productive conversation with him about the relationship. He'll blame you and it'll end up in an argument

@OliveLover76 thanks for posting the original thread, it helps a lot, and I see this isn't straightforward and agree with the PP that an 'adult' conversation won't cut it probably. I still wouldn't do it by text, personally.

If I were in your shoes it would be a letter where you have chance to detail everything and redraft as you think about things trhoughout writing it.