My very close friend was left by her husband at the start of the year. They have 2 young daughters together. He left her for another woman he met at work. After about 7 months he said he was not happy with this other woman and asked my friend for another chance. He ended things with OW saying he needed to concentrate on his kids. I told my friend at the time it sounded like he had left things open there with OW, not telling her he was getting back with my friend. The OW no longer works at his place but is friends with a lot of them who still work there. He went on his works christmas night out a couple of weekends ago and this OW was there. He told my friend the next day she had been there. I said to my friend I highly doubt he didn’t know she was going (mutual friends) but if he didn’t know, he should have made his excuses and left early out of respect for my friend. Instead, he stayed out all night til 3am (they started at 6pm) and he only told my friend the next day that the OW was there. I am trying to get an independent view on here of what he should have done as I honestly can’t stand the guy (he’s done many bad things to my friend) and I don’t want that to be clouding my judgement. They way I see it is, she took him back after the affair and they are trying to rebuild their relationship and trust so how can he justify staying out til 3am on a works Christmas do with the OW? So close to him ending it with her and getting back with my friend. It wasn’t a paid meal or anything it was just a night out, about 20 of them in one bar all night. Is this not disrespectful? I am so worried about my friend as I think he is still being deceitful and I don’t know what to do/say when she tells me these things as he always seems to talk her round. But if majority of people think this scenario is reasonable I won’t say anymore on it to her.